Friday, April 13, 2018

The Look

Every so often it happens, someone asks how unschooling is working while giving me the ‘surely they’re done with that by now’ look. Sometimes the look gets to me, and gives me pause to think about whether what we’re doing really does work or not. Then, I remember where the kids really are academically, almost universally ahead in my opinion, and I relax a bit.

Annoying as it is the ‘look’ winds up being a positive force in general. It makes me re-evaluate my goals for unschooling in the first place. I just have two of them.  The first is  for the kids learn in a natural easy way that echoes the way I learned things growing up.   The second is for them to get out into the world to experience it, and to build the skills necessary to work with it.

Sometimes when I review, I realize we could focus more on one or the other of those goals, and try to amplify my efforts accordingly.  For example,

  • “No. 1 mentioned she wanted to learn to solder, we need to take time to make that actually happen.” or 
  • “No. 2 is starting to bounce off the walls in the afternoon. He’s really good at action oriented activities like hikes and sports. I need to make dinners that we can take with us so we can walk out the door in the afternoon and hang out in our forested park or the playground instead of our house.” or 
  • “I noticed the kids are saying bye without making eye contact while leaving places we visit. We should start practicing role-play about greeting people when we’re out and about again.”

The look reminds me to do little things that make our unschooling life more effective and more fun, so, I’ll take it. Little reminders always help.

About the Antelope: Last summer when we went eclipse spotting, we met this guy.  He gave us a different sort of look.  As we ignored him, he then followed us, (always about 50 yards away), bleating his disapproval.  Apparently, we'd invaded his space.

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